Starting a new career can be a damn scary thing. If you’re fresh out of school, it’s easy to feel like you don’t know what you’re talking about. It’s easy to defer to your superiors and hide in the background. After all, you probably don’t have a ton of experience. Every job posting wants you to have years of experience but you can’t get that experience if no one will give you a job so that you can get, well, experience.
You start to get down on yourself and comparing yourself to your friends, colleagues, and frienemies. Someone got a better job than you. Someone got a job, period. Someone you work with didn’t like your idea for that marketing campaign. Pretty soon you’re shrinking back in meetings, or shaking hands like you’ve got noodle arms and standing awkwardly off in the corner eating all the cake at a networking event. STOP.
TAKE A DEEP BREATH. NOW ASK YOURSELF, WHAT WOULD BEYONCE DO?
There’s a reason why we love Beyoncé so much. She has confidence that Madonna herself is probably jealous of. She’s known in the music industry for having an insane work ethic. She’s humble, likeable and on top of the world. We could all stand to bask a little in her glory and apply a bit more Bey to our own lives.
Beyoncé can’t be bothered with haters. Did your boss rudely shut down your awesome idea (and then use it)? Did someone make a nasty comment on your blog or send some snark your way on Twitter? Are you scared to start a cool project because you’re worried about what people will think? Screw them. Don’t even worry about it. Constructive criticism is something worth paying attention to; garbage from haters is not. Beyoncé is not worried about what trolls think of her. Beyoncé is on a yacht in the south of France with Jay.
Make like Taylor Swift and shake it off.
Beyoncé is a collaborator. She did not come up with all her fabulousness all on her own. Do you think she would be where she is without Kelly and Michelle? Or her mom sewing all those crazy costumes early on in her career? Even now, as she sits on top of the world as one of it’s biggest pop icons, she’s still collaborating with other artists.
The woman knows how to WORK. Beyoncé has been working hard at her craft since she was in elementary school. She’s known for a killer work ethic. It’s been said that it takes 10,000 hours of dedicated practice to master a skill. Let’s say you’re doing your thing for 8 hours a day, 365 days a year. It’s still going to take you almost 3.5 years to hit 10,000 hours. Be prepared to work your ass off and enjoy doing it.
Be nice. Beyoncé is proof that you don’t have to be a jerk to get ahead in life. Even through the controversy in the early days of Destiny’s Child, Bey has kept her head held high and been open about how much she cares about the people she works with. And don’t confuse being nice with being a doormat. You can be an assertive badass without being a dick. It is possible.
So when you doubt your life, your decisions, and your self, take heart. Keep calm, and be Beyoncé.
Long live the Queen.